I realized long ago that most people are too demanding…I never understood the greed…never the continuous expectations of too much from people as if it was granted…as if it was their right.

There are obligations I understand.

A parent is obligated to provide for his kids…A wife is obligated to feed her baby…a company is obligated to pay salaries…Yeah, I understand those obligations where people should really demand their rights in them if they were ever subjected to failed deliveries of such obligations.

What I don’t understand is people building more demands upon those obligations and actually have the nerve to ask for more from people…especially if those people were giving …actually very giving!

I would never understand an employee who would ask for a raise after one month of employment and before earning any credit…I would never understand a grown up son who’d ask for a brand new car every year…I would never understand a friend to ask for an expensive gift or a sacrifice that cannot be tolerated… an unethical stand or such!

However, Even If I choose to give too much, I believe that I shouldn’t expect as much or anything for return…that is stupid really.

To me, I prefer saving myself unnecessary disappointments and enjoy other people’s giving as a nice surprise…and surprises are never a right…they are just nice gifts and gestures of love.

Expecting is as burdening as demanding…on both parties…

Problem is, the giver is exploited most of the time…as takers get used to receiving from the giver’s generosity to the extend of treating the giving as a right.

bigger problem is, if the giver is not an idiot or anything…

Major rare surprises where you offer to much with a good heart to someone with better heart and would make sure he’s as giving or just decline gracefully if he felt it was too much to accept…if his pride and dignity are more powerful than the lust of taking!

We all go through both situations when we are givers and rebel on the exploitation,when we are takers greedy or not and when we give from our heart and  find appreciation and love in return.

I chose to minimize my demanding a long time ago…since i was a child actually…without much drama here, I’ll just say that the way it felt to be turned down stings me till now. so, expecting is not really among the settings of my mind…and nice gestures from loved ones ARE in fact the gift of my life. 

Relationships should always be authentic in feeling, light in obligations and demands and true in commitment.

All kinds of relationships must have a ground…a base…of exchanged rules of respect, honesty and love…then materializing those must be as sheer as…well, as ice tea (hehehe, yeah I love it) refreshing, not too sweet and not heavy to digest…Lemon or peach flavored would be OK!